Supporting Children and Teens in Grief


Grieving is a complex process, and children and teens often experience it differently from adults. Their understanding of death and their emotional responses can vary widely depending on their age, maturity, and circumstances. Supporting them through this journey requires patience, honesty, and compassion. While there is no single way to grieve, the following guidance can help provide comfort and stability during this difficult time.


Understanding and Acknowledging Grief

Children and teens may not always express their grief in obvious ways, but that does not mean they are unaffected. Changes in behavior, mood, or daily routines often reflect their struggle to cope. It’s important to validate their emotions—whether sadness, anger, confusion, or even numbness—and reassure them that these feelings are natural and acceptable. Using age-appropriate, clear language when discussing death also matters. Avoid euphemisms like “gone to sleep,” which can confuse younger children. Instead, use honest terms like “died,” while tailoring explanations to their level of understanding. Teens, in particular, need honesty and respect, along with space to ask questions and process information at their own pace.


Creating Space for Expression and Stability

Because grief can be hard to put into words, children and teens often benefit from alternative outlets. Encourage them to share their feelings through drawing, journaling, music, or storytelling. For some, simply having a safe listener is enough. At the same time, providing structure and routine offers comfort. Keeping familiar schedules around school, meals, and daily activities helps restore a sense of normalcy and security during a period that feels uncertain. Creating opportunities for remembrance can also play a healing role. Memory boxes, photo albums, writing letters, or engaging in rituals like planting a tree can help children and teens honor their loved one in meaningful ways.

Offering Ongoing Support and Guidance

Grief is not something to be “fixed,” and every child’s process unfolds differently. What matters most is being present and supportive. Watch for signs of overwhelming sadness, anxiety, or significant behavioral changes, as these may indicate the need for professional help from a counselor or grief specialist. Encourage healthy social support too—time with friends, support groups, or online communities can reduce feelings of isolation and remind them it’s okay to experience moments of joy even while grieving. Above all, let children and teens know they are not alone. By walking alongside them with empathy, openness, and consistency, you can help them navigate their grief in a healthy and healing way.