- How to Write a Eulogy -

Writing a eulogy can feel overwhelming—especially during a time of grief. Many families worry about finding the “right” words, but the truth is this: a eulogy doesn’t need to be perfect. It simply needs to be honest, personal, and from the heart.

A eulogy is a tribute. It’s a way to honor a life, share memories, and help everyone present remember the person as they truly were.

Start With the Basics

Begin by introducing yourself and your relationship to the person who has passed. This helps everyone understand your connection and sets a comfortable tone.

You might start with:

“For those of you who don’t know me, my name is… and I had the privilege of being…”

Share Who They Were

Think about how you would describe them to someone who never met them.

  • What were they known for?
  • What made them laugh?
  • What values mattered most to them?
  • How did they show love?

You don’t need to cover their entire life—just a few meaningful details that reflect their character.

Tell a Story or Two

Personal stories bring a eulogy to life. Choose one or two memories that capture who they were:

  • A funny moment
  • A quiet act of kindness
  • A tradition they loved
  • A lesson they taught you
  • Simple stories are often the most powerful.
Sunset over a lake, with silhouetted grasses in the foreground.
Two hands, one with a watch, clasped in a gesture of connection.

Acknowledge the Loss

It’s okay to express sadness. A eulogy doesn’t need to avoid grief—it can gently acknowledge it while still celebrating life.

You might say:

“We are heartbroken to be here today, but grateful for the time we shared.”

Close With Meaning

End with a reflection, a message of gratitude, or a farewell.

  • Thank them for what they gave
  • Share how they will be remembered
  • Offer a final goodbye

Helpful Tips

  • Keep it between 3–5 minutes
  • Write it out and read it aloud beforehand
  • Speak slowly and pause when needed
  • It’s okay to show emotion
  • If it feels too difficult to speak, someone else can read it for you

Remember This

There is no “right” way to write a eulogy. Your words don’t need to impress anyone—they only need to reflect love.

  • If you would like help organizing your thoughts, reviewing your eulogy, or deciding who might deliver it, our team is always here to support you.

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